Yesterday after I got off of work. I had a friend over. No, you prevs... not that kind of friend. While we were talking she said that Sadie and I were getting along very well and Sadie looks happy. Then she said, "Do you feel guilty about Sadie?" I asked why, she basically said that that I have forgotten all about JuJu my love, my girl. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I think about JuJu in the best way I can. Sadie is no JuJu. but JuJu was no Sadie. JuJu when I got her was about 6 years of age. Sadie is 2 years of age. After my friend left I was crying and down in the dumps of what she said.. I know she did not mean anything about it; but it hit hard. Like I have betray my JuJu. Sadie since something was wrong and tried her best to make me feel better; only making it worse. I love/ loved both of them in different ways. Sadie is 55 pounds of puppy; who thinks she can crawl into my lap without me knowing. That is funny how she does it. JuJu was always by my side, next to me; not in my lap. Last night I had the same night mare I had when I put JuJu down. Several times. It still gets to me.
Sorry for being a downer today. Thanks for listening.
Ray
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Opening your heart to give love and receive love is nothing to feel guilty about.
The difference between my previous pet cat and the one I have now is like night and day. Lucy was a lap cat. Amata is not. Doesn't mean I love one more than the other. I don't think your friend meant to hurt your feelings Ray.
I think that was an insensitive remark. You are sharing your home and love with a new pet...there is nothing negative about that.
Oy. People, even well-meaning friends, can be very insensitive at times. The animal companions we have and lose will stay in our hearts forever adn I truly think we'll meet their spirits again.
Big hug!
Ray,
Never mind what has been said, just know that you have / and are providing a good home and life for your dogs. You've nothing to feel guilty about, quite the oposite.
Alex
Agree with all the above. You are a very loving and caring man, Ray! I know that for sure. You will love treat each pet in a kind and loving way. That is what matters. Don't feel upset because you are a great guy through and through! I love you like a brother.
Patrick
Don't feel guilty for the love you give Sadie. It's obvious that you cherish the memory of JuJu, and that you miss her still. Loving Sadie eases the pain of JuJu's loss and that is a good thing. It's how we recover. I've had 12 cats over the last 25 years, and have had to put some down. It hurts terribly, but that pain deminishes eventually as I learn to love a new pet. It's God's way of helping us. God bless you Ray.
we've just met but ray, i bet u have enuf luv in ur heart for both JuJu and Sadie. and it's all right to shed tears over the loss of a beloved pet. i hope u can delight in the differences between the two.
cheers!
Some people who have not loved and been loved by animals do not understand the heartache of having lost a much loved pet... I know, too, about dreaming about dead cats and dogs, and shedding tears at the thought of them. There are some, that after decades, I am still unable to talk about.
Hi Ray, when my Sporty died, the only thing I couldn't forgive was the fact that I was at work instead of at home with him. He was my best friend, companion, and taught me how it wasn't wrong to let people now how important they are to you. Now, with my Jack and Dusty, I learn the joy of taking naps, barking at squirrels, digging the the trash when you aren't supposed to, and just enjoying life to its fullest. Our pets teach us different things, and having more is no betrayal to those who have gone on. Be happy.
Ray,
I know she's your friend, and she might have meant well, but that was pretty insensitive.
There is no reason for you to feel guilty about Sadie. Juju was part of your life for a long time, and she will always have a place in your heart. Now, you've made room in your heart for Sadie too. That's a good thing.
Love knows no bounds.
I am with Stephen - there is room enough in your heart for both Sadie and JuJu.
It's all ok mate.
Shalom
Ray You are so right JuJu and Sadie you will always love in different ways and you will never forget JuJu. Pets are a part of our lives forever, they are like our children :)
Ray, giving it to ya straight bud - that was a real asshole remark your friend made, if it was me I'd question whether she was a friend I really wanted to keep or not. Some people get off on stirring other people up, throwing out little stings and cut-downs while keeping an innocent face. Messing with your head just because they can. Don't be spun around like that and made to question your own good motives for somebody else's amusement, if that's the case.
The other thing bubba, just got an email from the guardians up at the Rainbow Bridge, they say JuJu is so very very happy to know you have another doggie to love and cherish, to fill the empty space in your heart. JuJu was really worried about you when she had to leave, but she is just fine now knowing you can still love and go on and have the happy life she wants for you. JuJu doesn't want you to be lonely. She will be waiting to greet you and Sadie both one day up there with lots of hugs and licks and kisses.
You hear me Ray?
When my cat, Babs, died at 19 it was the most heartbreaking thing. She was so small when I got her, I could hold her in one hand and she could climb me from the floor to the top of my head. Every night she would embrace me and give me kisses before bed. She finally had kidney failure and became very ill and I had to put her down. She died in my arms. But I know she would not have wanted it any differently. If I ever have another pet, I can only hope for half the love she gave me. But never feel guilty about loving.
Real love is always good and is its own reward. Be glad you have Sadie now. Life is for the living. You will always have JuJu in your heart.
JerryB
I agree with Russ Manly! This person is not a friend. They are unhappy in their own life and they try to bring others down with them. Just the way she said it."Do you feel guilty about Sadie?" No friend would ask that question. She's just another fucking cunt with a fucked up life trying to fuck up other people.
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